YOU MUST FULLY REGISTER  TO RECEIVE THE DIRECT ADDRESS TO THE LOCATION. LOCATION WILL BE PROVIDED IN YOUR REGISTRATION CONFIRMATION

Time: 2pm-5pm

Where: This is a vanilla, public, and no-pressure hangout! - we are trying a New Location starting October

Who: Host @MissMelodyPond and @Princess_Nina and @Goddess_Colette

Why?

We have made significant improvements to our vetting system to ensure a smoother experience and establish a safer environment within the Femdom community. Previously, we used to attend various events, classes, and munches in order to vet all attendees at our parties. However, we have now simplified the process. Our parties are exclusively for individuals who have been vetted by the two hosts of @SDBADINTENTIONS, prioritizing the safety and privacy of everyone involved. With our new event, the vetting process will be more convenient than ever before. We also take pleasure in participating in both Femdom and non-Femdom events.

Vetting Process Instructions:

these steps can be completed in any order!

Munch Attendance: To complete the vetting process, attending at least one munch event is now mandatory. Our munches are scheduled to take place on the Second Sunday of every month, unless stated otherwise. These gatherings provide an excellent opportunity to meet fellow community members, get acquainted with organizers, and establish connections within our community.

Virtual Orientations: In addition to munch attendance, participating in at least one virtual orientation session is now a requirement. We will post the schedule for these orientations, ensuring they are accessible to all interested individuals. By attending these sessions, you will gain crucial information about the event, including rules, guidelines, and community expectations.

Our location does change from time to time it will be sent out so check your emails!! It send 2 to 1 day prior to the event!

First Munch Links and Detailed Etiquette

Quick reminders
Vanilla venue: no kink gear, no play — keep it casual and respectful.

Bring your ID: This is a 21 and up Venue. 

Support the venue: please grab a drink and/or food.

Discretion matters: keep kink talk to the patio, and keep outfits fashion-friendly / vanilla-passing for the venue. Collars are fine if they read as goth/alt style, and dark clothing is always welcome—bring your vibe, just keep it vanilla bar friendly.

SDBI Munch Etiquette
A munch is a vanilla social meetup (bar/restaurant). Not a play party and not a meat market—come to socialize and make friends.

Dress vanilla-passing. No obvious fetish gear. If unsure, business casual works.

Consent is the standard: do not touch anyone (or their things) without permission (including hugs).

Discretion matters: photos are discouraged; don’t take pics of the group. Step away if you need a selfie and keep others out of frame.

Names: Please respect names, only call people what they go by in the community or scene. If you know their real name don't forget we do use scene name in the scene. 

No titles or role assumptions: don’t use “Master/Mistress/Sir/Slave,” etc. unless you have an actual relationship and they asked for it. Be mindful of surroundings try not to use in front of the bar staff. 

Don’t assume gender: if unsure, ask pronouns. If you mess up, apologize, correct it, move on.

Pay your tab before you leave and please support the venue with a drink/food.

Do not out the group: if anyone asks, we’re a book club.

Need help finding us?
Ask for the “Dune Book Club”, check the Discord munch chat, or text Nina at (619) 537-9726.

Join the community Discord:
https://discord.gg/sKeeUMsa (link expires in 7 days)

Can’t wait to see you — come say hi, meet some great people, and enjoy the afternoon.


Warmly,
The SDBI Team

Munch Etiquette pt 1

Munch Etiquette pt 2